How to Catch lies instantly? You ever noticed that you can almost realize that your being lied too? Your brain sub-consciously picks up these as a defence mechanism. However sometimes your conscious mind falls for the lie so badly that it ignores your sub-conscious, and believes the deception. If you can know these signs consciously, it’d be almost impossible for you to be lied to again.
Also some of these are so subtle, you can barely pick them up. Sometimes they are so obvious. Professional con artists can hide some of these signs of deception, but the body will always give some away. So be on the lookout.
Make sure that you find ‘strings’ of body language. In other words you should find a consecutive acts of these deception signs. You should keep a lookout for not one sign, but a bunch of them together to make sure that they are really lying.
Make sure you try to make as much eye contact as possible. This causes nervousness, to extract more deception signs. They say the ‘eyes are a window to the brain’, that’s why sub-consciously they try to hide their eyes, so you won’t be able to ‘peek into their brain’. Also the pupil contracts when they are lying. They, again, sub-consciously try to hide this.
Again another way to cause nervousness is to ask them ‘Are you lying?’. Say it almost sarcastically. If they think they are saying the truth, they will try with every will to take off the false accusation. They will focus on you, and if they look away, they are most probably lying.
The palms are a sign of honesty. From the beginning of time the palms are shown to show no weapons are concealed. Over time, evolution has made this our way to show honesty; exposed palms. If someone is being dishonest they will try to hide their palms. They could do this by putting them in their pockets, putting them behind their back, putting them flat on the table, etc.
Arm movements show expressiveness and enthusiasm. When someone tries to stay reserved, and keep their arms and legs tight, and within the diameter of your torso, they are trying not to show expressiveness. You can only express something really good when you have seen it, and since their just pulling things out of the air, they can’t be to expressive. Sometimes the movements can be stiff, as the unconscious mind is not doing it, only the conscious is. This is a deceptive way to show expressiveness. The movements almost seem mechanical, and not to fluid.
Your mind tries to stop from telling lies, as it is not only unethical, but it leads to other problems in the future. That’s why sub-consciously your hands tend to move towards the mouth when someone’s lying. They may touch their lips, nose, rub-eyes, anything to block the mouth from being seen.
Facial Expressions will be limited. Again, as I discussed about the hands, facial expressions show expressiveness. You may also feel that gestures and words will be out of sync. For instance he talks about him/her being so angry, and showing a angry face a while after/before she said the words.
You may also find that the ‘liar’ will tend to focus on creating a deceptive mouth, because that’s where he/she’s talking from. This way, the liar keep most emotions limited to the mouth. For instance, the ‘liar’ say’s “I’m so tired” and does a yawn movement with the mouth, and shows no sign of stretching in the body.
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A liar will keep saying things to make it sound more realistic. He/she will add facts if you give no feedback, as the liar is trying to gain your trust/belief. An example could be you ask the ‘liar’ “Did you do your homework?”, and then they answer “Yes.” After a pause they will get nervous, add eye contact also, and say things like “I was doing math homework”, after more silence they would continue “it was quite hard”.
A liar doesn’t want to sit there all day so you could sooner or later find out they’re lying. They want to exit. They may shift their body away from you, and possibly even angle their body towards the nearest exit. Their foot maybe pointing in the exit direction, and constant tapping symbolizes running, they want to escape
Developing a rapport, which is discussed in more detail in the The Upper-Hand Advantage book, allows you to communicate more only. This will make them lie less, and even tell the truth to you.
“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you”
- Friedrich Nietzsche (1844-1900)